littlemousling: Cropped photo of Bebe Rexha, showing her (hotass) torso. The word "please" has been added. (bebe rexha)
Kink discussion! TMI warning. )

What I'm asking is: if you primarily bottom, do you find "playing with" more (mentally, physically, or emotionally) tiring than "being played with"? If you primarily top, is it the opposite? If you're a switch, do you find that there's an energizing/de-energizing factor to either role, and does it change with different partners/at different times?
littlemousling: Still from a Cobra Starship video, shows Vicky-T with the caption "Feeling ... kinky" (kinky)
If you've been sort of thinking about maybe trying a TENS unit but don't know where to start, this one is $40 at Amazon and comes with everything you need (though you'll probably want to order some extra electrode pads, maybe in different sizes).

If you need, ahem, some kind of extra motivation to consider it, cf this incredibly NSFW video.

And I'm totally willing to answer questions about it (though, you know, no affiliation, no technical knowledge of the specs, etc).
littlemousling: Still from a Cobra Starship video, shows Vicky-T with the caption "Feeling ... kinky" (kinky)
So I was doing a little survey of my own porny fic, for, uh, no reason at all, and I realized that somehow I don't seem to have ever seriously written bruise-pressing as a featured kink. This Gabe/Travie has a reasonable bit of it, but not enough.

Seriously, this would be like [personal profile] cherrybina suddenly discovering she's never actually posted a story with jailbait kink. I am just saying, this is the kink that makes me glad I'm clumsy.

So yeah. Putting THAT on the to-write list.


In other news! Here, go leave a disparaging comment on this blog post about an incredibly racist wedding. Just please don't be the ones in the comments being all "how come we can call this racist but it's okay to say things about white people!" plz.

I am reading a fabulous book called Holding Still For As Long As Possible, which is VERY Toronto and very riveting and the main characters are a trans guy and three queer women, but it's not about that, it's about being in your mid-twenties and dealing with friendships and relationships and your career and money and neighborhood changes and roommates and mental illness and coffee and cigarettes and puppies. It's just fantastic.
(Non-genre lit, entwined-stories-style novel, 300pp, female author, Canadian, and I just now found out it won the Lambda Literary Foundation Award for Transgender Fiction, so.)

Finally, if you like Cascade yarns (and you know you do), their prices are going up on Friday due to rising costs. If you're thinking of stocking up ahead of that, I really can't over-recommend Cascade Heritage Silk (which is a ridiculously affordable 85% wool/15% silk 4-ply fingering-weight gorgeousness in a range of solids).
littlemousling: Photo of Spencer Smith, drummer for Panic! at the Disco (Spencer)
I have just kind of found out that Spencer is in no way SJSV? Which ... kind of a little bit makes me want to cry and edit my BBB very heavily. Yeah, the BBB I posted a month ago, so, TOO LATE. Oh my God, old fans must think I'm a moron.

SO PORN.

I am usually not much for visual porn but this is pretty awesome (and is only a teaser, so I didn't have time to get bored or squicked).

Teacher/student roleplay, D/s, het:

A Very Naughty Boy from Liandra Dahl on Vimeo.




ETA: ... that in no way embedded, so I guess the cut tag is unnecessary.
littlemousling: Photo of rainbow-organized bookshelf with text reading, "Confirmed book addict." (books)
So via a series of links (ah, hypertext, how you have changed the world) I got from tumblr BS to a very cool discussion about self-publishing to gay BDSM novel recommendations.

The reviewer calls one of the three books (Uneven, by Anah Crow) "the perfect book" and waxes poetic about it at some length. Elsewhere on that site, a great number of other people talk about how phenomenal it is. So, I bought it.

And it SUCKS. (Spoilers, but you don't want to read it anyway, believe me.) )

In conclusion, it blows, and if this is the pinnacle of its genre then I know several fanfic writers who could shoot to the top of that pile if they decided they wanted to write for money.

(I will say that I get the impression that the second half may be less sucktastic? I'll probably read it just to find out if that's true; if it's as lolworthy, I'll write it up.)
littlemousling: Cropped photo of Bebe Rexha, showing her (hotass) torso. The word "please" has been added. (bebe rexha)
So, uh. It actually turned out not to be all that hard to find a nice woman (or in point of fact, two) to consensually hit me a little (lot) bit.

Bit weird, definitely--not sure play parties are really my thing? But for now, it hit the spot. Pun intended.

Argh

Jun. 21st, 2011 05:37 pm
littlemousling: Image of the word "frak" (from Battlestar Galactica) (frak)
So the main flaw in my "post lots of kinky fic! Much better than eating ice cream as breakup techniques go!"* is that I am horny as FUCK. And less for sex outright than for BDSM, which is too bad as the first would probably be easier to come by if I were actually planning to go out in Manhattan and look for it.

Harrumph. Okay. Done whining. Back to writing.

Also, the fact that I don't have a TMI tag is clearly a triumph of denial over reality. Alternately it's because everything I post could be tagged TMI.


*tho lol, let's not kid ourselves, I'm eating ice cream too. Ice cream is DELICIOUS, okay.
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I kept seeing [community profile] kink_bingo cards on my Reading page and ... I guess envy got to me.

So here's mine. )

NGL, there's really nothing on there that I don't think would be kind of fascinating to write. (There are a few kinks they're doing this year that are pure squick for me, in a way where I couldn't even write it, but really only a few.) Choosing a line is going to be more of a "which is the BEST" than "which will suck the least?" I'd say the top line is the least interesting to me, followed by the fourth column, but honestly they're all pretty great.

But, thinking about them in the context of fandoms I think I can write in really changes it up. I think I might actually end up doing some origfic, just to avoid that constraint. I'm glad that's an option.
littlemousling: Cropped photo of Bebe Rexha, showing her (hotass) torso. The word "please" has been added. (bebe rexha)
Because the safeword rants never go away, here, for the record, is my take:

Unless negotiated otherwise, no is a safeword )

"No means no" is and should be the default, in life and in fic that aims for realism. "No means keep going" is something that requires explanation. Either is fine, in fic and in life.

NB: this is sort of in response to this, but mostly to the many, many variations that I've seen on the idea that a scene without a safeword is an unsafe scene that should never happen/should never be portrayed.
littlemousling: Photo of rainbow-organized bookshelf with text reading, "Confirmed book addict." (books)
Just finished Ken Follett's Fall of Giants and started Tina Fey's BossyPants. I cannot possibly overstress how different these two books are. Basically, each features a mostly-white set of characters and each is written in English. That's about it. They're both absolutely riveting and I highly recommend them.

***

The older I get, the more I like my tits. I do understand that there's usually a point past which that starts to proceed in the other direction. I would make a "the other direction" pun now, except mine never pointed up to begin with (and honestly I've rarely met a pair that did, outside of magazine retouching and preteens and some porn. So really--is that a standard thing? I think we should stop pretending that's a standard thing).

***

I recently saw on my tumblr that someone of my internet acquaintance had posted a personal photo that was very like one that I have taken but would never post, for TMI reasons. I really liked seeing hers, mostly for the "me too!" feeling rather than any particular quality of the photo. It strikes me that I may not have the most common reaction to people telling/showing me intimate (eg sexual) details about their lives, because I just find sex really fascinating.

***

[personal profile] mistresscurvy and [personal profile] amazonziti are on an epic bandom concert roadtrip right now, and I can't join them until Saturday. I am 95% happy for them and only 5% jealous. Well, maybe 85/15.

***

I am really not at all a porn watcher; I've tried, but I just can't get into it (cf my recent outing to the Feminist Porn Awards). However, I ran across this post by [personal profile] marina and was curious enough to try the movie out, and I actually ended up watching the whole thing! That is super super weird for me. But it had a distinct narrative arc and I wanted to see what would happen. I even found it kind of a turn on in parts, so that was cool. Basically, if you like BDSM meta and you don't revile porn, you may enjoy it or at least find it interesting.

***

Taking Umbrella Academy Vol. 2 on the plane with me tomorrow, for the part when they make me put away my ereader. Which--come on. That is the most brick-like electronic device imaginable. And even if their actual reasoning is "nothing in the way if we have to flee the plane," I can drop that shit in an instant. My knitting, otoh, I am sure to get tangled in and die in the flaming wreckage, but do they stop me from working on a sweater? N they do not. Harrumph.

***

75/25. But I'm sure I'll be back up to at least 90/10 after a good night's sleep.
littlemousling: Cropped photo of Bebe Rexha, showing her (hotass) torso. The word "please" has been added. (bebe rexha)
From the kink/BDSM FONSAQ, prompt: What does 'headspace' refer to? I've seen it in some prompts above and it's not the first time I hear about it, but I don't really have a clue about what it means.

For disclaimers and a discussion of “flying," or endorphin-rush headspace, see Part One.
For an introduction to D/s headspace and the first two stages, see Part Two.
For what it's like being under, see Part Three.

The last stages )

Conclusions and a Few Resources )

If anyone has any other resource recommendations, please feel free to link them in the comments!
littlemousling: Cropped photo of Bebe Rexha, showing her (hotass) torso. The word "please" has been added. (bebe rexha)
From the kink/BDSM FONSAQ, prompt: What does 'headspace' refer to? I've seen it in some prompts above and it's not the first time I hear about it, but I don't really have a clue about what it means.

For disclaimers and a discussion of “flying," or endorphin-rush headspace, see Part One.
For an introduction to D/s headspace and the first two stages, see Part Two.

Stage three: Being Under )

Next up: coming out of D/s headspace, plus a conclusion.
littlemousling: Cropped photo of Bebe Rexha, showing her (hotass) torso. The word "please" has been added. (bebe rexha)
From the kink/BDSM FONSAQ, prompt: What does 'headspace' refer to? I've seen it in some prompts above and it's not the first time I hear about it, but I don't really have a clue about what it means.

For disclaimers and a discussion of "flying," or endorphin-rush headspace, see Part One.

Type two: D/s )

Next up, the main jazz: being under.
littlemousling: Cropped photo of Bebe Rexha, showing her (hotass) torso. The word "please" has been added. (bebe rexha)
From the kink/BDSM FONSAQ, prompt: What does 'headspace' refer to? I've seen it in some prompts above and it's not the first time I hear about it, but I don't really have a clue about what it means.

Now there's a meaty question! Luckily, someone else also claimed it, so I'm mostly going to ramble about what it can feel like, in two different situations. And because I am a long-winded person, four different posts.

Okay! So this won't cover everyone, and especially won't cover topping. But here are two possible headspaces, and what they feel like for me. I'll note that it's generally been my impression that my experiences with these are not (at all!) unique, but that nonetheless, this isn't meant to be a description of What Headspace Is For Everyone.

Type One: Flying )

Click for part two (intro to D/s bottom headspace, aka “subspace”)!
littlemousling: Cropped photo of Bebe Rexha, showing her (hotass) torso. The word "please" has been added. (bebe rexha)
For the Three Weeks for Dreamwidth FONSFAQ on BDSM/kink hosted by [personal profile] sassbandit, from the prompt here: "I'd be really interesting in reading about how people discover their particular kinks, whether it was a lightbulb moment or a gradual process, that sort of thing."

I said there and still think that this is the kind of topic that lots of people should post about, because it's really a question about how different people experienced the process. Therefore, I'm not going to try to cover the field; I'm just going to give a representative personal story.

Cut for mondo TMI (and hilarity, js) )

Like an apple falling out of a tree and hitting me on the ass )
littlemousling: Cropped photo of Bebe Rexha, showing her (hotass) torso. The word "please" has been added. (bebe rexha)
So! I went to Toronto's sixth annual Feminist Porn Awards on Friday night, with a friend who loved last year's (she very much enjoys mingling with porn stars).

The crowd was awesome--it boasted the most queer women, and definitely the most genderqueer people, that I've seen in a long time. Most everyone had dressed for the event, one way or another, and it was basically a big feast for the eyes.

The awards ceremony, though, was ... weird.

Preface and description part. )

The weirdness part. )

Anyway. Those are my best theories, but I am kind of fascinated by my reaction, now. Anyone else have the experience of being seriously turned off by porn featuring things they love in fic and/or real life? What do you think makes the difference?

(PS I also find the production values a huge distraction and omfg do I ever wish they'd shoot on film instead of video. This is also why I can't watch Doctor Who. So there you go: the intersection of Doctor Who and porn. You're welcome. ;)

Sometimes

Feb. 21st, 2011 10:05 pm
littlemousling: Image of a pansy (flower) (pansy)
Sometimes--lots of the time, the last few years--I am so happy and fulfilled and overflowing with love that I can't stop smiling.
littlemousling: Cropped photo of Bebe Rexha, showing her (hotass) torso. The word "please" has been added. (bebe rexha)
Can I just say that having a girlfriend who insists that I be MORE of a pillow queen, else suffer the (awesome, consensual) consequences? Is awesome.

There's my happy goat-carcass day thought.

(Also she liked the flowers. \o/)

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