I started to create a poll for this, but it ended up with twenty options and I was still going. So I'm going to do a really simple version of the poll, and then you can all tell me all the possibilities I've left out. ;)
The poll is anonymous: even I can't see who voted.
Here's some questions to help you narrow down the issues: If someone causes someone else to orgasm by lightly stroking their arm, is that sex? If it's sex, is it sex for both people? If it isn't sex, what must the first person stroke instead (or will stroking never be enough)? If it IS sex, does lightly stroking the arm count as sex for someone who can't orgasm from that, but does get intense sexual pleasure from it? What about someone who just sort of likes it? What about sustained genital touching of someone who just sort of likes that? Intercourse where one or both people just sort of like it, and don't receive significant sexual pleasure from it?
(Obviously we can all say "if they say it's sex, it's sex!" and be done with the conversation, but let's put that aside for now--even if that's the eventual conclusion anyway, I think it'll be fun to see what ideas and definitions we can come up with.)
For the purposes of the poll, "significant sexual pleasure" means the kind of pleasure the person engaging in the activity would usually "top out" at--eg orgasm, a particular plateau level of pleasure, etc.
This poll is anonymous.
Open to: Registered Users, detailed results viewable to: All, participants: 43
NOT specifically for the purpose of determining "virginity," but generally, what constitutes "sex" to you? Please pick the closest answer
(NB I am still not actually sure which answer to choose. So if you're having trouble, you are not alone! This is why I thought it would be interesting to talk about it.)